Coaching Life – Diversity  (Pages 36-39)

In 1992 I could have done with someone’s help. A coach? A therapist? A friend? My life was a mess.

Within a short period of time I’d gone from being one of Australia’s popular Pentecostal preachers, a respected leader in the denomination, married with two beautiful daughters, to being publicly humiliated, losing everything I’d spent years building and living in a dysfunctional, abusive co-dependant relationship with the man I’d fallen in love with. Then he tells me he’s just been diagnosed HIV+. Read more →

Over 60% of my clients come for coaching in midlife – some are in crisis and for others it’s a significant time of transition. Others are not really conscious of what is happening, they just know things are not right in their world.

Depending on a number of factors, midlife can be anywhere from the 30’s to 50’s. Mostly though it is closer to the 40 mark. It was like clockwork for me. Things began to unravel two months before my 40^th birthday. Our response to this stage in life determines success in our future.

The wrong perception of midlife

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Your personal value and belief system is quite complex and has been formed very early in life through the culture/society we come from as well as one’s family and historical environment. People sometimes say my values have changed but this is not true. It just might seem at times as if some are more important than others because of changes in life’s circumstances.

This internal value system influences our thoughts, feelings, and actions. Your values are your guiding lights and drivers. You use your value system to measure or judge your level of success, fulfillment and happiness.

Your value and belief system is totally unique. I call it your subconscious thumbprint.

I take clients through a process of several weeks to take this from the subconscious to their conscious awareness by: Read more →

An expectation is a strong belief that something will come your way. It’s very different to just wishing or hoping.

How important are our expectations in determining what happens to us in life?

Albert Einstein said. ‘Your imagination is the preview of the coming events in your life.’

It doesn’t take a great deal of observation to notice that people who expect the best in life usually seem to happier and life runs smoother.  And have you noticed that the reverse also seems to be true? Those who expect the worst seem to get it.

Is this a coincidence, luck or is something else going on? Read more →

Yes it’s simple – you CAN make 2018 great

1. Write down your goals and what you want to achieve in 2018.

Have you done it yet? It’s an annual ritual for me. Of course it’s important to think about what you want to achieve but even more important that you write them down. The actual act of writing them down has an impact on your subconscious. You have a record in your mind and also on paper. It is no longer just a fleeting, passing thought. Put these up somewhere as a reminder during the year and you can refer back to at the beginning of 2019. Health, finance, relationship, travel, learning, career, things you want to change in yourself. Think broadly about different areas of your life. Read more →

People often forget that essentially we are responsible for our own happiness. They think it is circumstantial. Here are some 13 good suggestions from mental health experts of things you can do to make yourself happy. Read more →

There will always be several options to overcome obstacles you face in life.

Obstacles, challenges and problems are unavoidable in life and it’s how you respond to these defining moments that shape the type of life you live and the type of person you are.

Why is it that some people seem to have constant struggles and live in a place of defeat; whereas others, it bring the best out in them. Each and every problem you overcome in life, makes you stronger, more self-assured and empowers you to confidently move in the direction of your dreams.

We are built to solve problems, achieve goals, and we find no real satisfaction or happiness in life without obstacles to conquer and goals to achieve. Maxwell Maltz

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2015 is my fifteenth year as a professional coach. This represents 100’s of clients and 1,000’s and 1,000’s of hours coaching. Over the last 15 years, I’ve learnt a thing or two.

I was having a meal with a fellow coach recently and we were discussing the successes and challenges of 2014. As we chatted, I became aware that three words were consistently being used. And whilst we were talking about our coaching businesses and I was often referring to my last 15 years in the coaching business, these three words are relevant to anyone committed to getting the most out or their career, relationships, business or life. Read more →

Not all years are good years. Whilst 2014 was not an Annus Horribilis (I’ve had worse, believe me), it was a year with many personal challenges.

People who know me well, know that the first opportunity I get in January, I set aside for an annual ritual. I have a date with a special person in my life. Quality time devoted to the most important relationship I will ever have. The one I have with myself.

One year I did it while I was having a break in Singapore. Another year I did it in Bali. For several years I’ve done it at the Park Hyatt in the Rocks, Sydney. One year I was a bit tight with money so I did it in a local park. This year though I went to a restaurant at Darling Harbour.

The important thing is to get in the zone. To be alone, reflective and take time. Read more →

2015 is almost here! There is something great about starting a new year. It’s like you get the chance to begin all over again; similar to starting a new job, commencing a new course or a new relationship. A positive, motivating energy comes with the new situation. In many ways, it is a new beginning because you can’t go back and change what happened last year.

But what about 2014?

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